Selflessness

Let's talk about selflessness. This is the only way you can make your marriage good. When you meet your spouses needs, you make them happy, when they are happy, they will then meet your needs. It is a full circle of goodness and love. When we are selfish, we only care about our own needs, and in turn your spouse won't meet your needs and communication shuts down and you are miserable. Selfishness is the enemy of marriage. 

Find something that your spouse appreciates, for me it is when chores are done at our house. When my spouse does a chore without being prompted, I appreciate that so much that my love overflows. He gave me his time to make me happy, time is something you can never get back, that is a selfless deed he did for me. 

My spouse appreciates physical intimacy, when I give up my time to meet his needs, even when I'm tired, his love overflows. It's all about showing your love and respect for your spouse by meeting their needs and giving of yourself for them even if you don't want to. 

Love is...selfless